Mothers are our #1 teachers and supporters in life. Moms are a huge believer of experiences — particularly the tough ones — which help mold our personalities and become the successful person we dream to be in the future. I became the fearless Girl Boss that I am today because of her.
My goal of becoming a successful, independent, and powerful woman in the fashion industry was inspired by watching my mom run a small book club when I was young. People just loved working for her even if it didn’t mean getting paid. She has, until now, this commanding and soothing presence that makes you want to say “Yes.” Her organization skills are top notch whether at home, at her chosen community center where she heads the team of volunteers, at work, wherever she is put. She is confident and fearless but reasonable and kind at the same time.
How to be a Fearless Girl Boss: 6 Tips from a Boss Mom
At the time when I didn’t know any better, I always thought that mom fitted the perfect description of the “Boss” quite literally because of how she applied her delegation skills in the house. I remember the seemingly endless list of chores pinned on the fridge, on my study desk, bed, and shoes when I was a kid. It was the kind of training that I hated then but am ever so grateful now that I am a boss of my own.
There are heaps of advice that she taught me throughout the years but here are 6 pieces of genuine and useful tips that I believe has made me who I am today. They are lasting impressions of the most influential person in my life and I hope that these are also able to guide you through your journey in becoming your very own Girl Boss.
Your Body is Part of Your Expression
My growing up years were the most memorable times in my life. Truthfully, I don’t think I would have gotten through all that without the support from my super mom. From my adolescent years to being a young adult — a newbie in the real world — and to now where I strive to become a great mom and boss, self-assurance was always a challenge. In her words, “Confidence is being able to express your true self.”
Being human means having fears, self-doubt, failing and rising through all of that. As a businesswoman, you have to deal with all kinds of people and sometimes, it’s difficult to connect yourself to all of them. As a boss, people see and hear you clearly. My mom taught me to be aware of my feelings and how my body reacts to them. I have learned to take advantage of expressing myself not only through words but also through actions. This way, I am able to fully engage with everyone around me.
Never Be Ashamed of Your Passions
I have always found it beautiful when someone relentlessly talks about their passion like it has taken over their mind, body, and soul. Isn’t it wonderful to listen to ideas and how it can contribute to the world at one point or another?
“All great things start with something small,” so mom always encouraged us to follow what we loved to do, no matter what it is. When I was starting my business, I was afraid not to WOW people of my vision. I came to realize that I am not here to please everyone. The world is made up of different people in order to complement each other and function as a whole. That the difference in views and opinions should not hinder me from pursuing my goals. In fact, I have used those differences as an input to further improve and advance my ideas. There are lots of things that you can do and achieve. You just have to stay true to yourself.
Talk to Me, Even if We Disagree
At times, you will find a disconnect between you and other people and almost always, it’s only because of one thing — no communication. I remember my mom being stressed out from work (she’s a girl boss but she also gets strained from all the pressure) and it felt like sometimes, she takes it out on us at home. When I was younger, I would just sulk it out in the bedroom while my parents talked it out themselves. They were always able to resolve their differences somehow. As I matured, I learned how communication is important in all kinds of relationships.
As a girl boss, you never have to fear changes and contradictions. It is normal to disagree because people have different ideas. What’s important is being able to express yourself and understanding the views of others, too. Encourage everyone to come to you whenever they are struggling and feel overwhelmed. Be the approachable boss whom your team can sit down and talk to because words are powerful and communication can truly move mountains.
You are Beautiful
“You are beautiful.” This is probably my most favorite thing to hear and say. My mom used this as a mood booster when I had my first school play, when I didn’t make it to tryouts, when I had my first heartbreak, when I went to my first job interview, and when I had my first child.
In our world today, self-esteem, especially for women, are pent up in how we look. I am a strong believer of beauty and everyone has their own standards that there shouldn’t be a norm for it. While looks never define our worth, it is still important to remind ourselves at times that we are beautiful no matter what. The less effort you exert on worrying about how you appear to others, the more you can increase your drive to do bigger and better things — like running your business!
Seek Out Older and Wiser People for Advice
As a Girl-Boss-in-the-making, it is normal to seek out strong female leaders for mentorship. For me, the finest example of female leadership was far closer than what you can find on Google or social media. It was my mom. The same as pre-historic times when our ancestors relied on their ancestors for survival, I depended on my mom for advice during the crucial moments in my life.
Wisdom comes with years and that is why older people function as the pillars of our society. Every new generation that is born is unique and will experience many different things. While we experience life differently, the lessons it will teach us are pretty much the same and our parents, your teachers, your former lady boss, has lived through all that.
Life is Practice for Who You Want to Be
“We become what we practice.” I have heard this phrase from my mom too many times while growing up. It was only when I got out of the four walls of the university classroom did I realize what it really meant.
If there is anything that you can use as a trial run to become successful, you have life and everything that comes with it. Each of us has a purpose and we live to fulfill that. We can have so many passions at one point in our lives while figuring out what we’re really meant for. I have reached this point in my life because I practiced so hard at failing and standing back up every time. The key to becoming a fearless Girl Boss is to have relentless ambition, an outgoing and positive personality, and the enthusiasm to experiment at a young age.
If you think you won’t make it as a Girl Boss, you are wrong. Your mom would probably say a thousand words in 2-minutes that you can barely hear but you know you felt in your heart. Start by not selling yourself short. Stay true to yourself, follow your passion, fall 7 times, and stand up on your 8th. Believe that you have already pulled off a lot of great things that every remarkable business owner in history has achieved. And when you’ve claimed your title of GIRL BOSS, go out, be an example, and inspire others to do their best just as your mom did for you.
What nuggets of wisdom did your mother give you that have shaped you as a fearless person? Share with us in the comments!